Dating A 40-Year-Old Man: 5 Essential Tips

The main problem I have found with dating at this age is what I would call fear and sabotage, and we’re all guilty of it, myself included. Some of us are all out damaged from it. So where does this become a problem? Well at work and many other aspects of our lives, we become proficient at tasks by repetition, and through trial and error.

I’ve tried to crack through a few tough shells in some of my relationships – I see a few commenters here who show signs of having one. In the end, these women seem confused about what they actually want. Honesty for example…absolutely, but in my last two relationships, despite their explicit desire for it (although they shouldn’t have to ask), I found it ended up being the problem. See, as a middle-aged man who’s heard this often, I find this is often not actually true unfortunately. As my mom says “maybe you just not want a man in your life”… I feel she’s right.

Instead I made poor decisions that I knew deep down would eventually end badly. Over the years I had to deal with the physical and mental effects of the domestic violence issue as well as going back to issues prior. It’s taken a lot but I am here.

#3. Don’t assume he isn’t going to want to have a family

Meaning he proves that he can protect and provide (hunt/kill prey). Sadly, he also lacks all the other, positive masculine attributes. Still, if a woman isn’t used to being surrounded by those traits, I can certainly see why a man like that will excite her. I’m not saying they are bad men, because they are a lot of wonderful men out there. But I find them, in general, displaying way too many feminine/soft traits.

I’ve spent countless waisted hours going to clubs. Dress like a poor man and ride a beaten up bicycle or ride a bus on dates. Then the only women you attract will love you for you. As to guys who want to go Dutch – that is fine, but in some ways it makes me feel sad because I think that the guy might be on a limited income. I learned a easy way to sort the money grabbers out when I used to date long ago. Just too many Gold Diggers these days that just want men with a lot of money.

And I think that is the key there. The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Men who are looking just for sex will say yes. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.

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But hey, that’s just my story, and I’m happy with my life and happy to share this with you and your readers. Unfortunately I feel that men over 40 have a hard time being honest to themselves. They do want all the benefits of a committed relationship but when time comes to committ they behave like a 15 year old, have big tantrums and disappear. I’m a 45 year old woman, 15 years divorced, had a couple of 2 year + relationships and have been dating for 3 years now. I currently have no strong ties with him yet, so i can still back-off without bruising.

I get a lot of compliments and have lots of loving and loyal friends but I just seem to attract abusive, controlling and selfish men. I’ve just ended a relationship with a guy like this. I still believe in love but I’m scared that time is running out and I don’t know how to find it. I live in quite a small town where everyone seems to be in a relationship.

I couldnt undestand why my gf who doesnt look or act her age dated younger guys. They are negative, havent changed with the times & no one would enjoy their company. I hate to admit that I see a bit of myself in a few of these profiles .

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The Wow Me Woman leaves many good men in her dust. Men sense her quick judgment, which leaves them feeling deflated, unattractive and powerless. That man then makes a poor impression , and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.